If you have ever wondered: “Is my child a late bloomer?” I’m sure you have heard a story that sounds something like this:
“My daughter didn’t talk until she was (fill in the blank) and now look at her chattering away—just a late bloomer!”
“Oh, my child just didn’t crawl, that’s fine, lots of kids are skipping this step, he’ll probably just start running soon—-just these late bloomers!”
“Yeah, my daughter didn’t like reading when she was in school but now she’s an adult and she reads just fine— just a late bloomer I guess.”
These people are telling the truth about their child’s development. But what does it mean for your child?
They aren’t trying to send us down the wrong path. They’re telling us because they’re sharing their experience. But development is dynamic. That means it happens at different rates for different people. It also means it is easily influenced, or can change direction. Development can be influenced by things like birth order, community, relationships and experiences.
A developmental screening tool can help you learn about what’s happening for your child – so if you have concerns, talk to your pediatrician right away.
What if we stopped thinking about development like a ladder that needs to be climbed?
We are all unique; our nervous systems, our social relationships, our families. As much as we’ve tried to simplify our understanding of child development, it’s just not simple. In our family, my son’s physical development was impacted due to Cerebral Palsy. This impacted his social development because he couldn’t keep up on the playground at a younger age. This influenced his language development when it came to communicating with peers. As my son developed his motor control and learned to navigate the playground and social relationships more effectively, he did this with grit. (Grit is a way to talk about someone who has strength of character or courage and resolve). This grit fueled his development in many areas and helped him to develop into the awesome kid he is.
But he also built these skills because he was supported at home and school.
Supports come in different forms. Support can be parent education, therapy appointments, sports programs that are individualized, or a teacher that recognizes when her students need a break from the classroom.
So how do you know if your child needs support?
Let’s start by asking some questions. Check-in regularly with yourself (and your partner, if available). Remember, what applies for today does not apply to tomorrow. Things change and it’s our job as parents to keep noticing and remaining curious.
1. Is there a specific area of development you are wondering about or is your question more a general observation? The most common areas of development can be broken down:
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Social/emotional
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Language/communication
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Cognitive (learning, thinking, problem solving)
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Movement/physical development.
2. Can you identify anything going on in the world of your child that could influence their development in either direction?
The stressors that impact adults impact children in very different ways. Have you moved recently? Changed your routines? Does your child have a new day care provider? Any of these things can impact development, at least temporarily.
3. What do you notice about your child’s developmental trajectory? Even though your child may not be developing at the same rate as other kids their age, they may be fine.
Let’s figure out where they are and where they’re going.
Maybe they need a bit of support to get further up the road a bit and then they’ll be off on their own again.
Maybe they need a lot of support.
Or maybe they just need a little more time.
4. Why did you come down this road? What made you start researching and what does that bring up for you? Do you relate to your child’s experience or is it different from your own?
No matter why you are worried about your child being a late bloomer, asking a professional for a screen is your first step.
Contact your doctor and ask if they can provide a developmental screener at your next appointment.
If your child is under 3, you can call Early Intervention and ask them to screen your child (it’s free!).
Share your answers to the questions above to help them understand your concerns. Our ability to remain curious supports our children in becoming their best selves.
Learn More:
Preschool for children with developmental delays
Is my child different? 6 steps to assessing your child’s development
Understanding child development milestones
What are Early Intervention services? Can they help my child?
Early Childhood FAQ: What if my baby is behind on milestones?
