Exceptional Lives Team
August 12, 2021

My Child is Struggling with Reading…Could it be DYSLEXIA?

Dyslexia is the most common learning disability but it often goes undiagnosed. In this blog we talk about the warning signs and how to get a diagnosis.


When I was growing up, I thought dyslexia meant seeing or writing letters backwards. I’ve learned that it is SO much more. Thanks to our guest blogger, Renee O’Brien, for sharing her knowledge with us!

Melissa doesn’t know what to do.

Her son, Matthew, is struggling in school. Melissa has asked his teachers about his reading. They have told her he will be fine, she just needs to read to him more, that he’s still young and will catch up, and that they don’t test for dyslexia until third grade. However, Matthew falls apart when he gets home from school. He cries while doing his homework and refuses to read because he is struggling with reading, except for the picture books he knows by heart. He’s also been acting out at school and has been labeled as lazy and a behavioral problem.

Sound familiar?

Unfortunately, this is the situation for many families. Dyslexia, while it is the most common learning disability, often goes undiagnosed. It is estimated that one in five people have dyslexia, yet teachers, even reading specialists, are not all taught how to identify and teach children with dyslexia.

Let’s start by talking about what dyslexia is.

The International Dyslexia Association defines dyslexia as “a specific learning disability that is neurobiological in origin. It is characterized by difficulties with accurate and/or fluent word recognition and by poor spelling and decoding abilities. These difficulties typically result from a deficit in the phonological component of language that is often unexpected in relation to other cognitive abilities and the provision of effective classroom instruction.” In other words, dyslexia is a language based learning difference that affects a person’s ability to connect letters to sounds, making it hard to read and spell. A person with dyslexia will read below what would be expected despite having normal or even above average intelligence. Dyslexia can also look different in each individual and can range from mild to moderate in severity.

What are the warning signs?

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So, that leave us with what dyslexia is NOT.

  • Dyslexia is not seeing letters backwards

  • Dyslexia is not a visual problem

  • Dyslexia is not outgrown

  • Dyslexia is not a developmental delay

  • Dyslexia is not rare

  • Dyslexia is not caused by not reading to your child

  • Dyslexia is not a lack of motivation or laziness

The only way to support children with dyslexia is to first identify them.

If you feel your child is exhibiting some of the symptoms, talk to their teacher and consider having them evaluated. You can request a comprehensive evaluation through the public school system. You start the process by writing a letter requesting an IEP evaluation in every area of suspected disability. Make sure to do this in writing! I can’t stress this enough. If it’s not in writing, it didn’t happen.

While all of this may sound overwhelming, it is important to note that your child can still succeed in school with the right interventions in place.

There are trained professionals, often special education teachers, reading specialists or speech and language pathologists, who use specific, systematic, evidence-based instruction that is proven through research to help your child learn to read. Ask your school what methodology or program they plan to use and the qualifications of the provider.

As is the case with any child with a disability, knowledge is the key. Being an informed advocate for your child, continually asking questions and seeking out additional resources are some of the best ways to help get your child what they need to be successful.

For more information on what to do if you have concerns about your child’s learning be sure to check out this page of our website on How to identify your concerns and talk to a teacher.

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